The Poem and the Body, the Body and the Poem

I intended to write a piece on poetry yesterday, but instead I experienced a tear in my retina. Right eye. Noonish. I saw white lights like fireworks, followed by a hovering gray blob that obscured my vision. It was roughly the shape of an acorn cap or a winter hat with a fuzzy ball on top. An ophthalmologist at KU Medical Center saw me right away. He looked deep into my vitreous gel with a fancy headlamp that made him look like he was about to go spelunking and exclaimed, I see the acorn in your eye! I thought he was making a joke, but apparently he could see a bundle of proteins torn from my retinal lining floating in the gel.

Why does the poetic image communicate faster than other forms? A few years ago, I asked this very question on Facebook and then proceeded to answer it myself. How annoying of me. My answer was as follows:

Arthur Koestler has an interesting theory. He says poetry requires thinking on a third plane, a kind of “bisociation,” meaning perceiving a situation or an idea in two individually consistent but habitually incompatible frames of reference. This bisociation disturbs our patterns of thinking/feeling and causes a crisis, which requires a third plane of thinking/feeling to arise, one that is antithetical to but that does not negate the strife of the two.

Since this moment of entry into the poem is a moment of crisis, I would argue that we respond to the crisis the way we are hard-wired to respond to all crises—as quickly as possible. Our entry into the poem is similar to pulling a hand away from a scalding object before realizing on a conscious level that the object is hot. It’s instinctual, a survival tactic. Perhaps bisociation in poetry works on this level as well—because of the crisis the poem presents, we move swiftly to a different mode of thinking/feeling that allows us to enter the poem without completely fracturing our identities, without obliterating our ways of seeing and moving through the world. Bisociation is a way of surviving the poem, of seeing the world as we experience it on a day-to-day level, then seeing the world of the poem itself, then seeing a plane on which to stand, one that straddles the two and gives the reader a place to exist, to breathe.

Perhaps this is why poems work on us so quickly, why the image communicates faster in poetry than in other forms of writing. Precisely because poems put us in crisis.

I removed that post from Facebook years ago, but I stashed it in my poetry files. I came across it today and appreciated it as one way to understand how poems work. I also appreciated my former self for leaving me this trace. It could prove useful when people ask me what poems are, how the mean, and under what conditions they operate.

If you look at a vertical sagittal section of the human eye, you are supposed to see something that resembles a camera. That’s not what I see. I see an angelfish without the fins. I’m sure this says something fundamental about me. The watery fish in the head. The brain home to an aquarium. The two specimens that cannot swim, that cannot escape, that do my bidding, that are forced to document the production.

In his poem “Trace,” Eric Pankey writes: To occupy space is to shape it. / Snow, slantwise, is not white / But a murk of winter-black basalt. / In the gullied, alluvial distances, / On the swallow-scored air, / Each erasure is a new trace.

Having a torn retina is not without its consequences. I feel like a mean girl punched me in the eye. Maybe at a bar. Maybe after I looked at her the wrong way. Maybe after she mistook the fireworks in my eyes for something I never intended.

If you look closely enough at a poem while wearing a headlamp, you can enter its recesses and observe the detail held within its vitreous gel. What drifts and where. What has lost viscosity with age and use. What holds fast. But when you occupy the poem, you change it. We change things by looking. There is no way around this.

When I told my husband about my retina, he asked if reading poetry might have caused the tear. I said poetry had no bearing on what happened. He seems to think poetry leads to disaster. I’ve tried to tell him for years now that we all lead ourselves to disaster, with or without poetry. Poems simply document the path from cradle to grave; from point of entry to point of no exit; from one dark, craggy landmark to another.

Origami

I grew up eating okra, which my mother breaded and fried. I never knew until I moved to Kansas City and bought a bag of frozen okra that it was hairy on the outside and slimy on the inside. I didn’t know the seeds were soft and moved within the mouth in an unsettling manner, avoiding the tongue and slipping down the throat. Okra and I parted ways after our tryst in the frozen food section of the Piggly Wiggly at 51st and Main, but I see it sometimes in gumbo and imagine what we might have become if we had stayed together all these years.

I feel like I’m in a car driving down a dark road, just two headlights between me and the black world.

I read a poem today that was so good I had to stop reading poems. It wasn’t about okra. It was about family. It was one of those poems that makes me cry and pace and ultimately climb the stairs to the main bedroom, at which point I consider the unmade bed and its implicit invitation to ride out the rest of my day there in the disturbing drift of silence and synthetic down.

Now I’m sitting at the computer wondering what comes after silence. I looked to the moon for an answer, but it seems to have vacated the sky. I don’t trust this level of darkness.

My husband will be home soon enough to invade my senses in the best or worst of ways. My tongue is already burning. My arms tingle. I don’t know if my body will accept or reject the presence of another human being in its vicinity.

There are not enough light bulbs to illuminate this room. I feel like I’m in a car driving down a night road, only two headlights between me and the black world. But I am not moving. I just keep staring at the same two monitors and, behind them, the same set of bookshelves—one shelf sports a thumb piano, the other a rusted monkey with articulated arms and legs.

Maybe I want poems to be pop-up books or choose-your-own-adventure verses. Maybe I want them to be origami. You would buy them flat, and the poem would be revealed as you folded the paper into the proper form.

I wonder if I could sauté okra in water and if I could learn to like it that way, if I could ever eat it without thinking of my mother. I wonder if my husband could lasso the sun and place it on my desk like a lamp. If not, maybe he could take me to the lighting section at IKEA. I could stand under all those fixtures and pretend to be Cinderella at the ball. Someday I will make my own light, like the stonefish or the false moray eel. I will be the bright thing in the shadows.

My CPU warms my feet. The heat makes me think something is curled up next to me, a small being in need of comfort.

Ring of Fire

Misread of the day: Abandon the cultural myth that all female friendships must be itchy.

We don’t always know the whole story, and the whole story isn’t always ours to know.

My thoughts are like cicadas: They burrow underground for years before returning to the surface to scream from the trees.

My life is a ripe fruit with a bruise hidden deep inside.

Some days, I feel like a paramecium lodged inside my own brain.

I’ve gone from one monitor to two. Pretty soon, I’ll be surrounded by monitors—not exactly a ring of fire, but one of heat and light.

The product of consumption attempts to consume itself.

Hayden stood on my chest this morning until I agreed to get out of bed.

I just watched a video of a pet pig being massaged with a fork.

Every day, I make sure my dog knows the love she never knew before we met.

Abandonment and Chaos

I lost my favorite corduroy pants. How does one lose pants? They are big, and it’s not like I keep an untidy home. It’s also not like I leave the house with pants on and return with no pants, except in dreams. I lost this very same pair of pants in a recent dream, in fact. Actually, they were stolen by a plasma physicist from The Big Bang Theory. I woke comforted by the thought that the pants were safely folded once and hung on the appropriate hanger in my closet, loosely filed between my capris and my denim.

People in the poetry world are pressuring me to use the terminal comma. I’ve started using it haphazardly and am now living between two worlds.

I have resorted to wearing leggings today. Brown velour leggings. Someone should break into my home and arrest me for this fashion infraction. It’s not like I have a lot of things here with which to cover my legs. If I lose the leggings, I’ll have to wrap myself in tin foil. Then I might as well just put myself in the oven and get it over with. I could feed a lot of hungry people.

I have a woven dress that I am wearing over the leggings. The blasted thing is pilling. I hate pills on fabric. They speak to abandonment and chaos in ways I find unsettling.

When I talk to people these days, I become giddy and inarticulate. Others’ sarcasm is a strong wind my mind braces for, and it’s taking a toll on my ability to focus, reason and communicate. This is a complaint about my mind, not others’ sarcasm. I once watched a movie about a father, his daughter, and their horse. They lived in Nebraska or some such ugly country. There was little dialogue in this film. Just the three characters and the fourth, unseen character, which was a strong wind. It was relentless. It made walking from the house to the barn like the walk of Sisyphus. I once read that wind can drive a person mad. I don’t doubt it.

Last night, I giggled for a while in bed then woke up hours later with my legs twitching wildly. I’d had a dream about sharing my home with an uncaged hamster. My days consisted of picking up turds. Here a turd there a turd, everywhere a turd, turd. My home had four stories, all connected with steep ramps instead of stairs. Going down was fun, it was all sliding and WHEEEEEEEEE. Going up, I had to wear cleats or else I would slide back down, again a Sisyphus type of situation. It didn’t help that I sometimes polished the ramps with Mop & Glo. I don’t know who I am in dreams, certainly not someone with common sense, but at least I keep a clean house.

I blame the twitching on all the junk food I ate. Now I am punishing my legs with brown corduroy tights. I hope it teaches them a lesson.

People in the poetry world are pressuring me to use the terminal comma. I’ve started using it haphazardly and am now living between two worlds: world in which readers are intelligent enough to recognize simple lists without the crutch of punctuation and world in which readers must have simple lists spelled out in no uncertain terms lest interpretational disaster ensue. I feel like a Flying Wallenda, perched like a bird on the wire between two high rises.

Mutually Assured Distraction

The world sounds like an endlessly compressing accordion

Apostrophetal: The assumption of the fetal position after being exposed to too many improperly used apostrophes.

The tenderness of spring reminds me how tender we all are.

I don’t really see the point. But I am open to the possibility of there being one.

One thousand thoughts between two that matter.

Microsoft Word just suggested I change “dysfunctionally” to “dysfunction ally.” That’s what I need: an ally with whom I can share my dysfunction.

A marriage between two people with ADHD can be summed up in three words: mutually assured distraction.

If we loved living beings more than we love war: biological welfare.

It took more than three years, but I finally found Hayden’s tickle spot.

My Exposed Ribs

I upset a little girl yesterday. And by little girl I mean, you know, someone in her 20s.

Now I am just lying here twitching and farting.

Without you guys, all I have is this gas.

O heartburn, must you court me like this?

Cough-syrup shots: because I know how to party on Saturday night.

Side effects that no medication should potentially cause: “changes in the shape or location of body fat, especially in your arms, legs, face, neck, breasts and waist.”

I am learning to love people despite their failings, but I am also learning to speak up when people need to be called out for those failings.

Would I change my life? No. But I would do it again.

I think today is starting with a trip to the ER. I read the label on my medicine, and it says to seek help immediately for nausea and vision problems. I’ve had nausea since yesterday, and this morning everything has haloes around it.

Now all the letters have haloes around them. I always knew words were angelic.

Pretty soon crows will be using my exposed ribs as perches, and my fingers will still be wrapped around this Galaxy III trying to convey the experience on Facebook—one consciousness reaching out to many.

There is this feeling in my stomach like driving on a gravel road at Lake Texoma. There is also this feeling of a rod shoved through my gut, as if I am reenacting Frida Kahlo’s bus accident.

My neighbor who wished me dead back in June must be feeling pretty satisfied with himself right now.

If they take me off the medicine that seems to be killing me, my lungs will shut down and I will die anyway. I don’t know what to do.

This new level of suffering is teaching me a great deal, both about the ways in which others with these types of conditions suffer and also about suffering in general. I am grateful to have these insights.

My dog might be throwing up under the covers right now. I’m afraid to look.

Forty-Four Signs of Immunotypical Privilege

Every day, as an immunotypical person —

  1. I can touch door handles and other surfaces in public without much concern.

  2. I can go out during flu season without worrying too much about contracting the flu.

  3. I can read about the recent resurgence in measles without feeling alarmed. After all, the measles vaccine is not contraindicated for me, and I know my body has mounted an immune response to the disease.

  4. If I get a slight cough, I don’t have to worry about it turning into bronchitis or pneumonia.

  5. My health status never goes from relatively normal to life-threatening in a matter of hours.

  6. When I take antibiotics, they work quickly and I only need one round.

  7. I haven’t been on antibiotics dozens or even hundreds of times over the course of my life.

  8. I have never been on prophylactic antibiotic therapy. I don’t even know what that is.

  9. I don’t have to routinely take medicines such as prednisone that weaken my bones and put me at greater risk for osteopenia and osteoporosis.

  10. I don’t have to wonder what comorbidity might be lurking just around the corner and if it will be a noninfectious condition, a malignancy, or an autoimmune disorder.

  11. I have never heard the phrase “immune dysregulation” and don’t have to concern myself with what that might mean.

  12. For me, boosting immunity means popping more vitamin C or Airborne. I have no idea what immunoglobulin is or why it’s essential to the human immune system.

  13. When I attempt to eat out, I don’t have to think too much about how long items are left on buffet tables or how well food is washed and prepped by food handlers.

  14. When I am out in public, I don’t have to worry when people cough into their hands or without covering their mouths at all.

  15. I can be sure that, when I go to classes, movies or restaurants, I will find a place to sit in which I am free from issues that exacerbate my breathing problems, such as perfumes, fragrances and cigarette smoke.

  16. I know I won’t have to pass on social activities because they would put my health at risk.

  17. I know family gatherings won’t pose a threat to my health, even if young children are present.

  18. If someone I love is in the hospital, I don’t have to think about when I can visit, how long I can stay, or other health considerations. I can fully focus on that person and his or her health needs.

  19. I can attend school, have a full-time job, raise a family, and engage in recreational activities without also having to manage the many conditions that would affect me if my immune system did not function properly.

  20. I can leave meetings, classes and conversations and not feel excluded, fearful, attacked, isolated, outnumbered, unheard, held at a distance, stereotyped, or feared because of my immune system.

  21. If I pick up a magazine or watch television, I will see images that represent me and my experience of my health.

  22. I never have to speak on behalf of all those who are immunotypical. My thoughts about my immune system can be my own with no need for political alliance relative to my immune function.

  23. My actual and potential contributions to society will not be challenged because of my immune system.

  24. I can go for months without thinking about or being spoken to about my immunotypicality.

  25. I am not identified by my immunotypicality.

  26. I won’t lose friends who can’t relate to what I am going through, who think I am exaggerating about my symptoms, or who just can’t deal with having a friend with my health status.

  27. I know I won’t be discriminated against by employers who neither understand my condition nor have the desire to provide a reasonable accommodation, despite the legal mandate that they do so.

  28. I do not have to be afraid that, when I talk with others about my health, they will suggest unsolicited supplements, dietary approaches or exercise programs.

  29. I will not be told by friends, family, and even uninformed members of the medical community that my condition is really just a psychological problem such as anxiety or depression.

  30. I know nobody looks at me and makes assumptions about why I appear to be ill (or well), or why I am too thin (or too heavy), or why I am not fit (or manage to stay fit despite my illness), or why I do (or do not) eat what I do (or do not) eat.

  31. I don’t have to explain why I have a lingering cough, why I might sometimes need to wear a mask in public, or why situations and settings that are safe for others may not be safe for me.

  32. Because I have never had to wear a mask in public, I have never been asked to leave a public place because the manager or owner of the establishment believes I am putting others at risk, when in fact the mask is to protect me from the pathogens others carry.

  33. I don’t have primary immunodeficiency, so I never encounter people who make the assumption that, despite the condition being genetic, I somehow brought it on myself through my diet or lifestyle.

  34. People aren’t embarrassed to be seen with me because of my health status.

  35. When I talk about my health, I can be certain that friends, family, co-workers and others will not become uncomfortable and change the subject.

  36. My partner doesn’t suffer from undue stress and hardship because he or she is my primary or only caretaker.

  37. Nobody tells me I should feel lucky to have primary immunodeficiency because it means I don’t have to work or accomplish anything during the day.

  38. My doctors have seen a lot of patients who are immunotypical. This means I am not put in the position of having to educate them about my immunotypicality, since they are already familiar with it.

  39. When I present in a health crisis at the emergency room, I am given prompt medical treatment, not told I am merely having a panic attack.

  40. Since I don’t have primary immunodeficiency, I am never called belligerent when an emergency room resident refuses to believe I have the condition and I am forced to insist that I do.

  41. I’ve never had the experience of being misdiagnosed over and over again throughout my life.

  42. I don’t have old misdiagnoses in my medical record that can’t be removed without a great deal of time and effort on my part.

  43. I don’t have to deal with the financial burden of expensive, ongoing medical care and therapy.

  44. I don’t have to face insurance companies that must review coverage for my life-saving therapy before that treatment is approved; that sometimes make patients go off their therapy for months in order for those patients to prove they still have the condition; and that sometimes deny therapy because they don’t feel the patient is ill enough to warrant it, despite documentation to the contrary in the patient’s file.

I live with common variable immunodeficiency and wrote this piece for Primary Immunodeficiency Awareness Month. It takes as its jumping off point Peggy McIntosh’s 1993 essay “White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack.”

Sodden

I dreamed I went to work naked, which was very disturbing because I don’t have a job.

My life is like a prom dress: I don’t know if it works or if it’s a disaster.

My mind used to be sodden. Now it is a sieve.

Today’s activities feel as pointless as setting a corpse’s coif with hairspray.

I am listening to rain and birdsong.

No reality but in the mind.

The inspired create the pseudo-effect of inspiration in the uninspired.

Behind every malady a tragedy.

If too many people start to like what you are doing, you’d better do something else.

The most annoying thing about Buddhism is all the bowing.

Compassion takes over where understanding leaves off.

I am not a writer. I am a transcriptionist for my mental activity.

When cricket chirps are slowed down, they sound like a choir of angels. Don’t let anyone convince you the world isn’t miraculous.

There’s a kind of alone-togetherness that permeates existence.

The measure of intelligence is not the ability to think perfectly but the ability to rethink imperfect thoughts.

I can accept the sound of the neighbor’s Big Wheel obsessively mapping the driveway that lies right outside my writing studio. But I will never accept the incessant tinkling of his little tricycle bell.

The people who think they’ve seen God have really only seen into their own minds.

The desire to achieve Enlightenment is the desire to enter into a controlled psychotic state.

You can’t understand the minds of others until you understand what your own mind is capable of.

My word of the day is “salvage,” not to be confused with “selvage.” Or is it the other way around—something that should be discarded, not saved?

Sometimes I don’t feel like a human being. I feel like a cautionary tale.

Like any truly romantic couple, my dog and I often watch the sunrise together.

The inner dialogue is the outer dialogue, and the outer dialogue is the inner dialogue.

If the only power I have is to make someone’s day worse, I have no power at all.

The mountains know they are turning to silt.

Tonight my therapist said, “You must feel like you’re on a lonely journey.” My response was, “I am Buddhist. We are always on a lonely journey.”

I’ve inspired tens of people in my lifetime.

The more ridiculous language becomes, the more truth it contains.

Let Us Not Be Remembered

Let us not be remembered by one word: ruin.

Tomorrow, I will kiss this ground and sing its praises. I will give it my tears and joy alike. I will thank it for sustaining life and for allowing me to come home.

Outside, children turn the last of the snow into snowballs.

Hayden just tried to eat the baby Jesus ornament that’s hanging on our Buddhist Christmas tree.

It can be hard to tell if something is done with intention or for attention.

I stopped reading poetry, and the world closed. Then I read a single poem, and the world opened again.

My mind is wind.

Change your language and you change everything.

We have no business in the sky, but there we are, imitating birds.

The Quest

My husband plays a lot of video games. That’s not too surprising, since he used to be a video game programmer. One of his favorite types of games has a “quest” theme. In the quest game, the hero is on a mission to accomplish something epic. The entire game is built around the hero’s ability to complete his or her challenge.

But in a capitalistic society, it seems to me that there are many more ways to deal in living beings—ways that might not seem obvious until they are deconstructed.

I realized recently that I am on a quest in real life. My “epic” goal is twofold: 1. I want to heed my calling to help others; and 2. I want to integrate my ethics and values—and the faith from which both stem—into my professional life.

This isn’t as easy as it seems, at least not for me. Part of the Buddhist Noble Eightfold Path addresses “right livelihood.” Dealing in living beings is listed as one way in which people can harm others while earning a living. For this reason, dealing in living beings is to be avoided for those aspiring to live their lives according to the path.

I’ve been sitting with the idea of dealing in living beings as it relates to truly helping others. Raising animals for slaughter and engaging in slave trade and prostitution are examples of dealing in living beings that are called out in the Noble Eightfold Path. These are obvious examples. But in a capitalistic society, it seems to me that there are many more ways to deal in living beings—ways that might not seem obvious until they are deconstructed.

We are all being dealt like cards every day, in one way or another. When a healthcare management company focuses on making its partnering physicians and its own executives wealthy instead of focusing on optimizing healthcare and minimizing costs for its patients, is that not dealing in living beings? When university-administered nutrition education programming is both funded and governed by the USDA—a deeply conflicted organization whose partnership with the dairy and beef industries impedes its ability to promote an optimal diet—is that not dealing in living beings?

In the first scenario, the profits are not possible without moving people through the health system. In the second, the programs cannot operate without the recipients of the programming. In each case, who is benefiting? Who is being exploited and potentially left in a worse state than before the interaction with the system? Who is being traded for profit?

At its core, right livelihood means doing work that is ethical. Since I decided to leave the field of communications, I have been trying to find the right path, one that supports and furthers my ethics. Because I want to live a life of service that is guided by respect—for myself and others—I need to find work that is in alignment with those goals.

Gaia University puts it aptly when they discuss the relationship many of us have with our work:

Most of us think in terms of “getting a job” as the primary way to earn a living—which means, of course, that we’re accepting a livelihood that’s been created by someone else and will be working on projects that meet the goals of other people’s agendas, not necessarily our own.

This is not, however, the only way to work in the world, and it’s certainly not the most fulfilling approach. As Ruth Purtilo, et all, state in Health Professional and Patient Interaction: “ … a life guided by respect depends in part on the ability to identify and shape one’s own life according to personal values and those that help to build a stronger community.”

This is what I’m looking for. This is my quest. And, like my husband’s game characters who get knocked down repeatedly in their efforts to find what they need, I’ll continue to get knocked down—and get back up again—until I become the hero of my own life and rise to this challenge.