Koch Brothers

Moving Mountains

Utah Senator Dan McCay, who shepherded the bill banning pride flags in Utah’s schools and government buildings through the State Senate, took to X, formerly known as Twitter, to attack the Sundance Film Festival. Here’s what he wrote:

“Bye Felicia. Sundance promotes porn. Sundance promotes alternative lifestyles. Sundance promotes anti-LDS themes.”

Sundance is considering leaving Utah, where it’s been held since its creation in 1978. The ban on pride flags could ensure Sundance’s departure from the state.

This is how Utah’s lawmakers are behaving these days, just a couple of years after cloaking their homophobia and transphobia in purported support for federal protections for same-sex marriage. They wanted to be seen as the good guys back then. Not anymore. What’s infected our government at the highest levels has infected Utah lawmakers and many of those who live in the state.

Almost three years ago, I contacted every LGBTQ+ organization and group in Utah to address the hatred and outright bigotry several Southern Utah lawmakers in places like St. George and Leeds were espousing through far-right groups with militia ties. The only organization that responded—the largest one in the state—told me they had decided not to address the issues with our lawmakers. They thought everything would blow over and wouldn’t amount to anything. They perceived themselves as the leaders of Utah’s queer community. As such, they were encouraging everyone else who was queer to stay quiet, too. Like me. I was told not to talk about what was happening.

I told them they were wrong. I’m from Oklahoma and have lived through this. I lived through the AIDS epidemic, the Reagan years, and more. I lived in Kansas and know the Koch brothers and their playbook, which was being carried out in Washington County, Utah, where I lived and across the country in rural areas with a couple of tweaks: guns and violence and, in the case of Southern Utah, with a post-Mormon hatred that was unbounded. I said what was happening in Southern Utah was going to spread to the rest of the state—and quickly. They didn’t believe me. They were Salt Lake City-centric and didn’t see the power lawmakers in Southern Utah had or understand what they were capable of.

I told them anti-trans legislation was going to hit them like a tsunami, and they had a responsibility to address what was happening before it was too late. Weeks later, they flew the director of the organization down to Ivins, a town just outside St. George. People with power and influence in the queer community were invited to a mansion to discuss what to do, how to move forward. It was a private event. Members of the queer community at large were not invited or even told it was happening. Stay quiet was pretty much what they came up with at that meeting. Several people who attended also discussed the past of one of the alt-right group leaders, which involved extremely inappropriate behavior with her female students. (She’d been a high-school teacher in the area at one point.) The group wasn’t talking about that publicly, either.

In a matter of months, nine anti-trans pieces of legislation were signed into Utah law by Utah’s Governor. More laws have been passed since then. Queer organizations have been hobbled and/or gutted. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints has enacted more hateful and harmful policies that target queer members and their families. Queer folks are being threatened, disowned, harmed in myriad ways, erased, and more—more than ever. And now lawmakers are telling everyone in the state what they really think, what they thought all along but didn’t feel they could say.

I’m not a seer. I didn’t see into the future. I’ve just seen all of this before. I’ve lived through it, survived it, and been shaped by it as someone who’s nonbinary and queer. I didn’t stay quiet like the queer organization told me to. I wrote two letters that The Salt Lake Tribune published, one of which discussed a column by Pat Buchanan that ran in The Daily Oklahoman on Oct. 17, 1990. It was titled “Homosexuals Mainstreaming Satanism.” I compared that piece to what was currently happening at meetings and rallies in the St. George area. I also pitched stories to local reporters and provided background material and comments on several stores. This only served to drive a bigger wedge between me and the queer community who didn’t seem to want me or my voice to exist. Ironic? Yes. It’s ironic.

Even with everything unfolding the way I said it would, only worse than I could have imagined, I’m still not welcome in Utah’s queer circles. Last fall, I attended a Zoom meeting for members of NAMI Utah to discuss changes within the organization. That meeting was comprised primarily of queer participants. They recognized my name from the pieces that ran in the Trib, and they thought I was there to glean information about the organization and report on it in The Salt Lake Tribune. I wasn’t. I attended the meeting because I’m in training to become a peer specialist here in Arizona through NAMI, because I’m a mental-health advocate who stays informed about issues that affect mental-health care in my communities, and because I live with mental-health issues and am as deserving of support as anyone else in Utah who lives with mental health issues.

The folks in the NAMI group also believed I was a journalist because they apparently don’t understand the distinction between editorial content and letters to the editor. I’m a poet and writer who’s worked as a medical writer and health advocate. I have a degree in journalism but am not working as a journalist. I certainly wouldn’t “inflitrate” a NAMI meeting. (Please.) Or use my full name in my Zoom profile if I was trying to be sneaky.

The group moderator contacted me individually after the meeting through email to admonish me for being unethical, to insinuate I was there to undermine the organization, and to ask what I planned to do with what I learned during the meeting. It was a stunningly inappropriate communication that was never properly addressed by NAMI Utah’s interim director. She passed it off to a lower-level volunteer as opposed to addressing the infraction herself as the organization’s leader. Here were my concerns, in short: You can’t use an email list your organization maintains to gather information about a member and reach out to them to ask probing accusatory questions. Doing so is discriminatory, borders on bullying and intimidation, and jeopardizes the well-being of a fellow NAMI member who’s seeking inclusion and support.

This is where I’m at in Utah. I’m an advocate whose advocacy is unwelcome and unwanted in both the queer and mental-health communities. The fear that permeates Southern Utah and drives folks to paranoia and conspiracy theories is embedded in the state as a whole, even in the very communities many Utah lawmakers want to eradicate. Queer folks and folks with mental-health issues need to learn how to stand up for themselves and each other, how to bring in and welcome outside voices and perspectives, and how to be true advocates and allies who don’t end up doing more harm than good in their respective organizations. Rolling over, fear, othering bordering on shunning, and baseless accusations aren’t going to get us anywhere, nor is silencing queer voices in the name of queer solidarity. We need to start moving mountains more than one spoonful at a time. And we certainly don’t need to be creating more and larger mountains.

Utah has work to do. We have work to do. We need to show up. My voice isn’t going anywhere, as much as I’ve been asked to remove it from the state, even by some folks in Southern Utah’s poetry community who’ve called my work inappropriate, graphic, and pornographic (just like the Sundance Film Festival, apparently). Hell, I’ve been called a pedophile several times by my neighbors up in South Jordan and later in Toquerville, where I still live part of the year. (One of Utahns’ big go-tos is calling anyone they don’t like a “pedophile,” which is sad given all the actual acts of pedophilia in the state.)

I’ve heard it all at this point. I’m surviving it all on my own, outside of any Utah-based communities focused on support and advocacy. I hope Utah can come back from what’s happening right now. I do. I feel for folks who are being crushed by all of this. But when a bulldozer’s coming, you have to warn others and get out of the way until you can dismantle that bulldozer. You’ll get nowhere if you pretend it’s not coming or throw others from your community in its path or tell them you don’t need their help. Communities who are harmed cannot harm others within their communities. That’s just a reframing of the very paradigm that caused those communities harm in the first place.

Sunny Southern Utah

Toquerville, Utah, is only thirty minutes from the Arizona border, so it’s pretty much like I’m not even leaving the state of Arizona. That’s how I’m going to think about it. I’m uneasy about returning to an area that has so much embedded trauma.

Like the women and girls who were sex trafficked across a four-state area by way of a horse trailer that Samuel Bateman carted them around in. He was the father or husband of all of them. In one case, he was both their father and their husband. They were as young as twelve years old. He made them have sex with men while he watched. He said it’s what God wanted them to do and their hymens would grow back.

Like the man in Enoch who killed his mother-in-law, wife, five children, and himself because his wife filed for divorce. He didn’t want the embarrassment and shame that would bring upon him. Better that they all die than live as a broken family. Like the graves of the children and their mother lined up in the cemetery three minutes from Toquerville. Like his unmarked grave in some secret location.

Like runners who are trying to escape the compound Warren Jeffs still operates from jail but are found by other followers and dragged back inside the makeshift metal walls surrounding parts of the community.

Like the FLDS woman in substitute teacher training who met up with her husband during a break and returned with a badly split lip. How blood dripped onto her white eyelet skirt. How she cheerfully struck up a conversation about poetry while she bled.

Like the man patroling BLM lands with a gun and a knife who calls women hikers he meets c-nts and tells him their presence is threatening so he’s justified in killing them. How the sheriffs say he’s within his rights to defend himself if he feels threatened. Besides, it’s a he said, she said situation, they say.

Like the youth who’ve died by suicide after coming out as LGBTQ+ and losing their whole families, their whole communities, everything they’ve known. Like the LDS church’s response, which is to be even harder on trans members, denying them opportunities the way they denied opportunities to Black members in the 1970s before they almost lost their tax-exempt status for doing so.

Like the outdoor adventure camps for children and young adults with behavioral issues that are riddled with abuses, devoid of accountability, and often run by staff with more unaddressed mental health issues than the children and youth they’re purportedly trying to help.

Like the seventy-year-old man who meets you in a state park and grooms you alongside his wife so he can later send you a photo of himself naked in his bathtub.

Like the mental health professionals who say your issues have absolutely nothing to do with trauma. You just need to go home to your husband. They write in your chart that you’re involved in trafficking, as if you’re trafficking others, when the truth is you were trafficked, sex trafficked as a child, by your family.

Like the therapist who lays her hands on you in a session and pulls the evil out of your body in long, expansive motions, the one who asks you to accept Jesus Christ as the one true savior, to renounce things like yoga and Buddhism because Jesus is the only one, the only way. Like your insurance paying for this session. The gaslighting of that. The mindf-ck of that. The absolute where the f-ck am I of that.

Like the things you still won’t put in writing because alt-right extremist groups are involved, militias are involved, ties to Cliven Bundy are involved, and these groups have thousands of local members who’ve gotten ahold of the Koch brothers’ playbook for destroying communities at the hyperlocal level. And they’re doing it. And it’s working because they have guns and rage and more guns and more rage. No end to the guns and rage. Someone has to pay for whatever’s made them so g-ddamn angry.

Like derealization as the only way out of that place, that inanity. Like insanity as the only sanity within insanity. Like nobody talking about any of the things that are happening. Like none of it even exists. Like trauma doesn’t girdle the area the way the laccoliths and sandstone formations do. Like abuses and suffering don’t rain down like summer storms, penetrating everything that can be penetrated and roiling from the creeks before they make their way elsewhere.