Author: Dana Henry Martin

Salt Pyramid

In Hurricane, Utah, two dozen or so children and their parents were playing music and cheering drivers on from the side of the road. They were waving homemade signs that said things like “You Matter,” “You Are Loved,” and “Keep Going.” We drove past them twice on our way to run an errand. I cried twice, that I did.

I love my new phone Aluminium so much that I have a special stuffed dragon whose only job is to cradle her all day. Was she in that cradle just now? No. Did I knock her over and make her fall on my keyboard screen first? Yes. Is she OK? Too soon to tell. She may be scratched. Her protective cover flap wasn’t pulled over her darling face. How do I feel about myself right now? Not super, dude.

I wrapped my king-sized chenille blanket around my waist and am wearing it like a sarong is how I am.

Sentence from my dream: Like gods in Greek myths, we are gilded, guilted, and gutted.

You’d think I’d put all my dopamine to better use, but no. I make fiddly spreadsheets.

I’m doing a deep dive into facts and fictions about the Osage orange is how I am.

A list of my bad habits:

1. All of them.

Had a wild night. Didn’t take my mascara off until 10:12 p.m.

I got stars on my ceiling, baby. I got a nebula. Come over and be one with everything.

I wrote this in 2008 when everything hit the fan. Well, not everything, clearly. There’s a lot more on that fan now, and more is hitting it every day:

“If you have made the choice to be a poet, you have made the choice to enter into a certain way of being alive. Don’t forget that. If we forget that, we are lost.”

I put my hoodie on backwards and had the life partner zipper me to my office chair until I got my chapbook No Sea Here finalized and off to Moon in the Rye Press.

It worked. The file has been finalized.

And I’m still zippered in. I kind of like it. Am I in a dominance and submission relationship with poetry? Of course I am.

The new fire alarms the life partner installed because the old fire alarms kept going off In the middle of the night just went off in the middle of the night. I fell over trying to get my jeans on so I could assess the situation. My left foot got caught up on the hole in the knee, and down I went. Lexi is in wild-animal panic mode. The life partner is basically sleepwalking around the house in a daze, still wearing only his boxer briefs.

I just read a poem about birds by Lisa Bickmore to two birders and their pet bird. Don’t tell me poems can’t be part of our daily lives.

The life partner is outside with two birders and an actual bird who are applying bird-safe film to our windows. Huge thanks to Great Salt Lake Audubon for helping us get this film up before the winter birds arrive.

For those of us who enjoy a broader than average* spectrum in terms of mood, energy, and intellect—which can be both a gift and, at times, a difficulty—you’ll be happy to know the fall equinox is tomorrow. That means day lengths will level out, so we will no longer be in freefall day after day where light levels are concerned. You did it. We did it. Now let’s rock fall bigitme.

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* Whatever average is. That depends on who’s making that assessment and according to what criteria.

𐎼𐎤 𐎠𐎱𐎤 𐎥𐎨𐎱𐎤
𐎼𐎤 𐎡𐎸𐎱𐎭
𐎼𐎨𐏂𐎧𐎮𐎸𐏂 𐎠𐎨𐎱

I’m trying to figure out cuneiform syllabograms in case we need to learn a secret language, but I don’t think any of this is right. It’s supposed to read:

we are fire
we burn
without air

Fall hard? Get up harder.

The life partner to me just now: Will you smell my thumb and tell me if it smells like peanut butter?

My heels are so rough I tore a big gash in my fitted sheet while I was sleeping. Again.

I wake with my underwear somehow so much the victim of overnight shifting that it’s 100% not where it’s designed to be and 100% where it’s not designed to be.

I may be the Utahn Utahns don’t want, but I’m still a Utahn. The past few days have proven that to me. I’m saying things like “my community” and meaning it.

From MedPage Today: Doc Has Sex Mid-Surgery.

This country has jumped the shark.

I was told this morning that I’m borrowing the label of sanism. Howso? I live with trauma and bipolar. I’m not appropriating anything. How can anyone have read my poetry and my writing, including my writing here, for the past two years, as this man did, and not understand that I have mental-health diagnostic labels and lived experience?

A male poet just messaged me to insist their sanist behavior isn’t sanist. It was a vitriolic message based on my posts yesterday about the forms sanism takes. This is an accomplished poet many of you read with, admire, and engage with daily.

Social media was 4channed years ago. Our culture in general is more 4chan than most of us realize. Our politics are def 4chan.

This week, I’ve been told I should be euthanized. I’ve been told I’m spreading hatred. I’ve been told I’m the problem (in reference to the shooting). I’ve been told I seek easy answers. I’ve been told I want to stay in my comfort zone. I’ve been told I’m responsible for Southern Utah’s culture, including its flaws and limitations.

We say we don’t know anything about 4chan culture, but so many of us are 4chan to a T. Like the boys and young men the 4chan subculture targets, we’ve made a hard turn away from compassion and toward a nihilism that has no end other than destruction—of each other and the world.

I’ll never believe my life has no purpose and love has no meaning, so 4chan me all you want. You won’t turn me.

To every thing there is a hot take, and a time for every hot take under Heaven. But once you have actual information, the time for your hot takes is over.

Intelligence in part means seeking out and synthesizing new information rather than clinging doggedly to what’s outdated.

What you left inside me: nail clippings, cigarette butts, used condoms, whiskey, anything that oozed from you and your friends.

When I die, preserve my mouth so science can thaw it one day and remember what it sounded like when people fought, when they screamed.

Print me out some new lungs so I can scream better, scream harder, scream longer.

Brian Kilmeade, are you sorry? Are you really, really sorry? Why do I have a hard time believing those words just slipped from your lips and that you know the first thing about what it means to be compassionate?

I’m commiserating with the screeching white-tailed antelope ground squirrel is how I am.

Men, which I mean conceptually, stop trying to roll your word-stones into my mouth. It’s a Sisyphean task, and I won’t gag on your “wisdom.”

I’m listening to The Crystal Method’s album Tweekend is how I am.

The things you don’t know about are often things you don’t know about because you can afford to not know about them. Ask someone who’s affected by the things you don’t know about. Odds are, they know about those things because they can’t afford not to know about those things. Your erasures and omissions are another form of othering, one that enables discrimination.

I rolled a ketogenic pizza up like a burrito and am eating the whole thing is how I am.

Poets: Be aware of intrinsic sanism in the spaces you create when you bring poets together to share work, to create, to teach, and to learn. Try to identify sanism the way you are able to identify other forms of discrimination. Try to create spaces that welcome everyone, even those with mental-health diagnostic labels and lived experiences.

Fox News host Brian Kilmeade said during a segment about those affected by the July 24 executive order, which affects those who are unhoused, who have mental-health diagnostic labels, and who have substance-abuse issues: Or involuntary lethal injection or something. Just kill them.

It gets worse: Joseph Massey wrote a poem eulogizing Charlie Kirk.

I’m listening to Depeche Mode’s “Clean” on repeat is how I am.

An unexpected Duran Duran song is like a drink of cold water straight from a hose in this dumpster-fire country.

You know who tells you the news before law enforcement and news outlets? Dictators. That’s who.

I dreamed poetry was a pile of salt the size of a pyramid, and I was forced to eat all of it.

Folks who discard you when you speak your truth? Duck ’em. Of course I don’t mean duck. That’s a typo. But come to think of it, also duck ’em.

I’m watching a bat drink tomato juice is how I am.

I love that moment when someone sees me as safe and code switches while interacting with me.

I dreamed a poet was making me do pull-ups in a doorway and yelling, You need strong arms to write strong poems.

Hate speech is never free.

My seer stones tell me there’s going to be a lot of unfriending and blocking on Facebook over the next few days.

The Venezuelan boat turned around. It turned around and we shot it. And here’s a face cream. And here’s an AI that’s made to be you and that can fix you by being you even more than you are you. And here’s a fob you can use to secretly record everyone. And here’s a deal for seniors. And here are some fitness classes. And here’s a thing for stripping the leaves off rosemary. And we shot the boat. And we hit it. And it sank. After it turned around. We shot it better than ourselves, better than we are at shooting. We are AI made to strip the world. We are recording you. Seniors are a deal now more than ever. We make them wear our faces. Our fitness depends on them. Leave secretly or we will hit you, cream you. After you turn around, keep turning. You’re out of thyme.

At least my brother gave me a unisex first name. And my family says it the way that’s typically associated with the masculine pronunciation, “DAY-nuh,” as opposed to the feminine pronunciation, “DAH-nuh.”

Why did my brother name me? There’s a long story behind that. Of course there is. In my family, there’s a long story behind everything. Our stories are like arm fat just waiting to be squeezed out from behind a tightened tourniquet and into the light of day.

Your memory keeps my body on its knees.

It’s only 80 degrees here in the desert this morning WHERE IS MY PARKA

It’s like everyone’s trying to get through the gate even though there’s no fence.

Why didn’t anyone tell me there are more than six stress patterns in poetry? That’s all I’ve been working with for years. I didn’t even know about the existence of the amphibrach, antibacchius, bacchius, cretic, molossus, and trilbrach. Who here knew about any or all of those?

I mean verse is right there in the word for all that is. It’s not the uniprose, for crying out loud.

I just saw a horrifying ad here on Facebook for an AI twin. It’s supposed to be a copy of your mind and train you to know yourself more deeply than you know yourself—by being you. Get me out of this skibidi timeline.

It just occurred to me that establishment poetry is a function of institutionalism. Institutionalists created it. Institutionalists perpetuate it. Institutionalists seek it out, dream about it, crave it, feel incomplete without it. It’s like a government in that way. Or a religion.

People are yelling at Mitt Romney in a Salt Lake Tribune post here on Facebook, and I’m all ready to go defend my man.

My doctor’s medical assistant sang me “The Name Game” song using my name today. So yeah. I’m going back there.

I found a fascinating thesis about Communism, poetry, and the Oklahoma Writers’ Project from 1935–1938.

Corn moon has everyone acting happy in St. George, Utah.

Corn moon had me nightmaring about poets in the wee hours. I was doubled over from physical and existential pain on the floor of a library in Cedar City, Utah. Poets were kicking me as they walked by. A librarian finally opened a nearby elevator and rolled me into it so I’d be out of the way as the poets continued having their important discussions about poetry.

Trans people are people.

I see the poetry establishment as a nucleus. As cells age, the nucleus of each cell accumulates abnormal molecules that are toxic to the cells themselves. So yes. The poetry establishment—the core of poetry so many aspire to, which is part real and part myth—is a nucleus, and an old one at that.

He’s a comics scholar and one-time critical theorist who’s into graphic medicine and knows which way the toilet paper roll goes? Oh yeah, baby.

/me bites lip

I love the folks over at Bluesky.

This afternoon, I was listening to my favorite Bo Burnham song, “All Eyes on Me,” when the life partner interrupted me to tell me that—wait for it—I need to remember to change out the new fire alarms in 2035.

I’ll be dead by then, he said. You’re going to have to remember to do this.

And this is what I mean when I say ours is a household informed by various and sundry anxieties.

I’m watching an American mink open up Easter eggs filled with treats. This will carry me through the night and into tomorrow.

Through me, my mother is half alive. Through my mother, I am half dead.

I just misread COVID vaccine as mood swing is how I am.

In rooms full of men, my body becomes something other than my own.

Every word I write makes the world both more and less accessible.

Bless the birds who are migrating thousands of miles to their winter lands.

What light is left in this world.

We are ghosts haunting our present with our past.

Be the Nudibranch You Want to See in the World

From Kumataro Ito’s Illustrations of Nudibranchs from the USS Albatross’ Philippine Expedition (ca. 1908). What’s your vibe? Which nudibranch are you? Which one do you aspire to be?

Shown: Watercolor illustrations by Kumataro Ito, the chief illustrator aboard the USS Albatross as it surveyed the aquatic resources of the seven thousand islands of the Philippines.

Source: The Public Domain Review.

Loosening Our Ties

My father had a tiger’s eye bolo that I loved. I wore it in grade school when we reenacted the Oklahoma Land Run. (Yeah, we did that. Also, there was more than one land run, but we only learned about and celebrated—for lack of a better word—the main one for simplicity’s sake.) I wanted to be a cowboy. My teachers protested. They wanted me to do whatever the girls were doing.

I’ve been looking for a bolo that’s like my father’s for a long time, but most of them are turquoise, and my father’s was shades of brown. I found one today tucked into the back corner of a gift shop. It was made of tiger’s eye. As soon as I saw it, I remembered that’s what my father’s was made of, and it’s also why tiger’s eye was my favorite gemstone as a child.

As I held the tie, I thought, “My father was more than the sum of everything terrible that happened to him and everything terrible he did, including what he did to my mother and me.” It was a surprising thought. I want to believe that—that there was an untarnished part of him tied to the traintracks inside his heart. He may have tied that part up. He may have wanted it tied up. But it still existed, whether or not he longed to free it.

I bought the tie to commemorate continuing to be in mental-health recovery after my trauma-induced mania two years ago. As I drove home, 104.1 played “Dust in the Wind” by Kansas. The sky was lapis lazuli polished and held to the light. The cliffs in and around Zion looked at once eternal and ephemeral. As much as their presence hints at forever, they are also literally dust in the wind.

I started crying. How could I not? How could anyone spend time with this land, this sky, and not untie the parts of themselves that are immobilized in their hearts?

Let the heart run. Let it rewild. Let it forget suffering. Let there be nothing to suffer from or for. Let us all loosen our ties and help others loosen theirs.

Toy

I dreamed I invented the perfect body-positive, sex-positive sex toy that was also an actual toy for those who, like me, live in the let’s talk about books and spreadsheets and history fringes of pleasure than in the more traditional let’s put this and that together set.

We’re Here. We’re Poets. Get Used to It.

I dreamed I was in the U.S. Senate chambers, where a politician was spewing the hate of the moment as faithfully as a geyser, when a feeling started moving through my body. It began in my gut and had me on my feet before it reached my brain. I didn’t even know what I was going to say, but it ended up being this:

What’s the point of poetry?

Why does it matter when it can lead you down some unknown path, and you don’t even know how it will end?

When it gets you so lost you feel like you’ll never be found?

When everything ahead of you is a blank page, and there’s nobody there to help you fill it?

What’s the point of starting out on that journey all alone, maybe never to finish, never to come back the way so many who wander lose in the end to their wandering, boots into snow, knees into dirt, head into clouds?

The point is to go forth anyway.

To try.

To make that creative journey, which is an existential journey, because it can bring us back to ourselves and each other in the end rather than relegating us to seats where hate lives and breathes, where the air is sucked out of the room every time we open our mouths, because poetry is an act of living and an act of love, and politicians, hell all of us, need to lean into love.

Leaning the other way, into darkness, is not an option because it’s an extinguishing.

The human spirit will not be extinguished.

Living beings will not be extinguished.

The Earth will not be extinguished.

We’re here.

Poems are here to remind us why.

The whole thing was somehow caught on a live camera and played to a gaggle of teens who were visiting the capital. As I left the chambers, they all threw their arms up the way I’d thrown mine up as I spoke. In unison, they yelled POETRY! Poetry gave them hope that day, as it gives me hope every day.

I’ve written before about how dreams may be more our reality than waking states. I hope that’s the case and that dream logic seeps into all our waking states today, tomorrow, and as long as we’re all sharing space here in time. Happy fall equinox.

Selections from ‘Love and Cruelty,’ Meat for Tea

8

I know we are in trouble
when you move your electronics
into the guest room

and start sleeping in that bed.
When I find the dark sock
you ejaculate into

tucked under a pillow sham.
When you leave every drawer
you touch ajar in the morning,

every cabinet door open,
not because you don’t want
to wake me with their closing

but because you don’t want me
to wake up and demand
your attention. In therapy,

you talk about boundaries,
your need to maintain them.
The therapist asks you why

you feel this way. I also want
to ask why, but for now I lie
in my bed each morning,

pretending to sleep in,
until I sense you’ve eased
the back door shut behind you.

—

9

For a long time I made up landscapes
because I didn’t know how to talk
about real ones—the red dirt
that stained my swimsuit

when I swam with water moccasins
in Lake Texoma, which wasn’t
even a real lake but one made
by and for men who wanted to fish

for fun, wanted to piss in the water,
to fall overboard in their work pants
and the cotton shirts that skimmed
their chests, which were flat, since

they spent their time behind desks,
not in the fields where their fathers
darkened in the sun each day
and at night revealed their light

foreheads, the bright skin hidden
by their sleeves. It was a privilege
to see that skin, fragile and untouched,
like snow-covered ground after

the season’s first snow. For a long time,
I made up landscapes because I wanted
to live inside them and to shout
from their hills and lakes that we

were in danger. Now I want to speak
from the Blue Mountains and the Columbia,
from sagebrush and western rattlesnake.
From silt and sediment and seed

and fruit, from scabland and butte.
I want to say that we are all in danger—
and that we are the danger. I want to be
a plane dragging a banner, a message.

—

10

At the border, the VACIS gamma-ray
machine has taken an image

of a truck carrying two stowaways,
along with a shipment of Styrofoam

trays, as it makes its way from
Canada into the United States.

Through the truck’s walls, the trays
appear as dark squares, almost

like dry-stacked bricks. The person
on the left stands, revealing a body

with sloped shoulders, which tapers
from its thickest point down

to ankles that disappear into the slats
which make up the truck’s floor.

The body on the right crouches,
knees pulled to chin, in meditation

or fear, or perhaps in boredom.
In the heat, probably. Or in the cold.

In the dark. Their shadows remind me
of thermal radiation, the snapshots

captured of victims in Hiroshima.
But of course this is not then or there.

This is here. This is the border.
Motherless, my own instinct

to protect kicks in. I want these
shadows to have privacy, to escape.

And since we’re being honest
about love and cruelty, I will

tell you that I want these two
to succeed, whoever they are—

the one standing and the one
crouching. I want, especially,

to check in on the one crouching.
That body is too thin and frail.

That body looks scared, a position
I know well. But most of all, I want

walls to be walls again. I want
curtains to be curtains and shrouds

shrouds. I do not want the vision
of a thousand scientists and technicians

that allows me to see into what is solid
so I can catalog the faces of the dead.

—

20

We need to update the stories
of coyote and hare. Neither outsmarts
the other because both are dead,

riddled with tumors, skin and muscle
coming away by the handful,
each body turned against itself

rather than toward annihilation
or evasion. We need to move
Adam and Eve from Eden

to the Gamma Garden, where atomic
seeds spill to Earth and Eve’s
apple has amazing properties

conferred by radiation breeding.
We need to make that apple larger
and crispier, with a longer shelf life,

more sugars and more seeds,
maybe even conjoin two apples
in one fruit for fleshier specimens,

since flesh is where delight lies
and since we’re on the cusp of being
able to do just about anything.

—

23

I knew we were in trouble
long before I knew you,

when as a child I learned
of the white trains moving

across the country like ghosts.
I knew when I hid under a table

as my father talked about Russian
bombs and how the next world war

was coming any day. Somewhere
inside as I practiced my emergency

drill position I knew, knew already—
long before you were an activist

tapping on military jets in the name
of peace—that the war had already

come, silent like fog. Had moved in
and staked claim, settled into our water,

our dirt, been taken up in our food
and our bodies, encroached on

the animals we sometimes professed
to care for—whose destiny we

sometimes admitted was entwined
with our own. I knew there would

one day be walls that would offer
no privacy, that no concrete

could stop what was coming,
that no matter what we did

or did not do, we would be
nothing more than protesters

on the tracks, our legs severed
as the white train came and went

in the sheer quiet, leaving a legacy
not one of us knows how to live

with or beyond. Slowly we are
turning the entire planet, every

living thing, to frass. I’ve known
this for years because the devil

himself held me in his arms, pressed
his tail against my thigh and told me.

—

These sections of Love and Cruelty first appeared in Wicked Alice.

Love and Cruelty is forthcoming from Meat 4 Tea.

Selections from ‘No Sea Here,’ Moon in the Rye Press

And the Mountains Rising Nowhere

And there is a single boat on the water.

And the water is as still as the moment
………………………………………………before thought. And a bird

is about to fly, almost. And the wheat is gone,
harvested. And the fields are nothing more,
………………………………………………nothing less, without

wheat. And the sun hides behind a haze,
but it is there, it is there. And the mountains,

smooth as sculpting clay now hardened,
………………………………………………break into pieces around us.

And the trees hold up their branches, always.

—

Sermon

If a man is in a fruit, then when the fruit is taken and blessed, it is redeemed.
— Rabbi Amnon

If a woman is in a lake, then when the lake
is drained and filled in, it is rescued from water.

If a generation of boys is in trees, then when the trees
are felled and milled, the forest is delivered from shade.

If a party of lost girls darkens the air, then when the air
swells with toxins and haze, the sky is liberated from breath.

If a grandfather is in the soil, then when the soil
is dry and bare, the ground is saved from production.

If a grandmother is in the body, then when the body
is scathed and broken down, it is released from its own ruin.

If a man is in apple, then when the fruit is thieved
and cleaved, it is redeemed from the curse of being a man.

—

Inland Beach

Handful by handful, wind carries

sand over the tops of these lava flows.
My husband and I scale the barbed wire,

climb past sage and dry flowers.

Volcanic rock crumbles, shifts
under our feet, dark as a field

newly burned, dark as shame.

High above, the Twin Sisters
share the age-old story of marriage.

Coyote, their jealous husband,

turned them into pillars; turned
himself into a rock to watch over

them forever. Behind the pillars,

sand forms a waterless beach,
the river visible in the far

distance. We lie together in love

and regret, each of us a Coyote,
our fear turning us both to stone.

We rise and make our way to the twins

whose eroding bodies remind us
even love and its curses will pass.

—

Hanford Site, 1958

We find radioactive rabbit dung
up to two thousand acres from the site.
We find radioactive coyote dung.
We assume the coyotes found the rabbits
……………………………….in their burrows and ate them.

We have come to expect deaths out here
where no one will miss the dead—
more prey and predator where these came from.

We have come to expect—no, to anticipate—
……………………….the larger death for which we gather
while our wives give birth and keep house,
while we file in and out, in and out
…………………..………………………as we are told.

We burrow inside the site and inside our homes,
hoping no coyote will sniff us out
and put an end to this—
………………….our insurance, our bright future, our light.

—

No Sea Here

There are waves here, too. Each morning,
……………… … … ……..they pass from tree to tree.

These waves talk to the air the way a sea talks
……………………………………………to its shores.

Lower, the wheat makes its own waves,
………………………………which sound like streams.

The wheat’s movement reveals the shape
………………………………………of the land below

that, long ago, was carved, and carved again, by water.

—

“And the Mountains Rising Nowhere” first appeared in Barrow Street. The poem takes its title from Joseph Schwanter’s composition by the same name. I was listening to the piece and thinking about the stillness of the Eastern Washington landscape as I wrote this poem.

“Sermon” first appeared in I-70 Review.

“Inland Beach” first appeared in Menacing Hedge.

“Hanford Site, 1958” first appeared in The Smoking Poet. I used to drive by the Hanford Site on my way from Eastern Washington to western Washington and back again. The landscape in that area is already strange, and the story of the Hanford Site makes the area feel even stranger. Its silence and stillness felt eerie to me, as did the sense I had that the world was not prepared for what Hanford would become. The land was not prepared. The air and water were not prepared. The vegetation and wildlife were not prepared. And the people who lived in the area before the site was built were certainly not prepared.

Even those who moved to Richland, Washington, to work at the site were not prepared for what their hands and minds were shaping out in the desert. For this poem, I went back in time and tried to enter the hearts of Hanford’s nuclear pioneers. The poem is based on a secret report from 1958 that was unclassified in 1989.

“No Sea Here” first appeared in Canopic Jar.

No Sea Here is forthcoming from Moon in the Rye Press.

Fun-House

The life partner and I are having an ongoing fight interspersed with listening to music in separate rooms. What happened, you ask? He tried to handle a medical bill three months after I first began asking him to do so. He insisted it wasn’t urgent and was feisty in a bad way every time I brought it up.

As a result, a couple of weeks ago, I almost got put into collections by the hospital and had to pay the bill in full before I could be seen by my immunologist.

But that’s not what the fight’s about because my window of tolerance for the life partner is larger than he could ever imagine.

The fight is about the fact that he caught a wild anxiety this morning, which happens from time to time, and called the insurance company to figure out why the claim had been rejected. He got in way over his head and couldn’t even identify the correct claim, which made the conversation with the representative go south fast.

He burst, I tell you burst, into my room in a panic with his phone in his hand and a tiny confused voice on the other end of the call, demanding that I help him immediately, which I did by taking over the entire situation and cutting him out of the conversation.

He’s trying to defend the indefensible. That’s what the fight is about. I hate it when our home becomes a series of fun-house mirrors reflecting anxiety and defensiveness, especially on a day when something good is actually happening in my life.

(I’m not sure the two phenomena are mutually exclusive. Any success I have seems to spike his anxiety and, somehow, his need to prove his worth through acting defensively toward me. Other things spike his anxiety, too, like The Rumproast in Chief, which means he’s been anxious about certain issues for a while now.)

What am I listening to? The Crystal Method, of course. I owe this band a debt of gratitude for getting my rear in gear where writing is concerned.

More Abuses in Poetry

I’m reflecting on how I could have stopped writing poetry at any of a number of points over the past year:

Last spring, when a poet I’d known for more than two decades went on his page and threatened me because he thought it was inappropriate for me to tell him that, as a friend, I loved him. He decided that meant we were having an affair. He attacked me privately, then went on his page to tell the entire poetry community he was going to out me as a married woman who was acting disgracefully. I had to watch women poets, including those I know, console him rather than telling him his behavior was inappropriate. That is the one and only time I’ve screenshot a Messenger conversation and shared it. I did so to put an end to the unfounded, untrue, and libelous comments he was making. He immediately blocked me. I never even said his name—though I would if something like that happened again today—and I removed the screenshots the next day rather than leaving them up as I could have. (Update January 26, 2026: They’re back up on my Facebook page.)

Last winter, when a poet who’d been following my work for months and said he wanted to publish some of my poems left an obscenely hostile, sanist comment on one of my microessays lamenting the fact that people are using a bridge down the street to die by suicide. He screamed that I needed to be in therapy rather than writing and that my writing was the last thing he needed in his life, as if he hadn’t followed me and chosen to read, and laud, my work up to that point. As if he didn’t have the power to stop reading what I wrote or unfriend me or mute me or any of a suite of well-adjusted options that were available to him.

Two days ago, when a poet I’ve known for more than a year, perhaps the most successful and talented poet I know, lashed out at me for using the term sanism, indicating that I was “borrowing” the term, implying my experiences with abuse and trauma and my lived experience with bipolar aren’t valid because, unlike him, I haven’t been to war. It was not the first time he’d lashed out at me or the first time he’d engaged in disconcerting comments about and behavior toward women, namely women poets with mental-health diagnostic labels and lived experience.

That’s about one-third of what’s happened over the past year. Poets can be so toxic and vitriolic and othering and fragile and entitled and bullying—and even engage in nasty tactics like gaslighting—that it’s still hard for me to wrap my head around it. I am shocked every time it happens, though I shouldn’t be. Something similar but much worse is why I left poetry for years back in 2015.

Shame on those who engage in behaviors like this. Shame on the effect you’re having on other poets. Shame on the dynamics that underlie what you’re doing. Shame on you for doing everything seemingly in your power to remove folks like me from poetry in particular and the world in general. I mean the human world. I also mean the living world. Like everyone with a dignoastic label and lived experience with bipolar, I have a 1 in 5 chance of unaliving myself. Not trying to. Actually doing it. Anyone who nudges, pushes, or shoves another human being in that direction needs to sit with what they’re doing and why they’re doing it. Bigtime.

I had just finished my essay for Mad in America the day before the poet accused me of appropriating the term sanism. What if I’d pulled that essay? What if I’d decided not to submit my manuscript to any more contests? What if I’d decided not to write poems or essays anymore? What if my mental-health recovery had been compromised?

Folks who need my writing would have lost my voice, including my insights, perspective, and stories. And I would have lost part of myself. That could have been what happened because poets like the ones listed above make poetry too much. Too hard. Too unwelcoming. Too dehumanizing. Too rancid. Because of the sexual assault that occurred with my mentor, which took me away from poetry and—in a sense—my life for seven long and lonely years, I am always close to leaving when some new poet rears his head in a similar way, with similar impulses and similar levels of dysfunction.

But I told myself when I came back that I will not leave. I will not budge. I will not back down. I will be a 4 in 5 even if certain men in poetry have absolutely no regard for my health, well-being, or life. That’s the biggest fuck you I can give men like that.

And I will write. I will not stop writing.

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And those of you who know these types of folks and do nothing? Shame on you as well.

And those of you who think folks like me should shut up about things like this, who confuse us for the problem because we speak about the problem, who tell us to just get over it or at least not talk about it publicly? Shame on you, too.

I do not have the capacity for any of you. The work I’m doing is far more important than publishing poetry, that is if I have to stay silent about abuses in order to have work accepted or dissociatively participate in the system without being able to advocate for change within the system. I will not stay in the good graces of a toxic culture. This is about human rights. All of it. My life, my work, my purpose.

Dream Body

I dreamed my dream turned into a body and crawled out of my body so it could suffocate me. I dreamed this dream over and over. In some iterations, the dream whispered terrifying things in my ear before it stilled my breath. The dream’s body was made of the universe. It was weightless but all force.